Wednesday, June 30, 2010
Well...it's about time....
Good Morning – after last weeks donut search I decided not to post anything for a few days...several people commented "what happened?" ... well suffice to say the Chinese folks who own the local Dunkin Donuts “know” my name! I think they said "no more donut for you" but I could not be sure!
I got an email from my eldest today and a link to follow to the Freelance Star in Fredericksburg. It was a small blurb but one worth chatting about…Jake’s all-star recognition.
When I say it was a small blurb...it was…but that is not the point. It was the recognition that comes from a job (or in this case a sport) being well done. To see his name in print and to get that level of recognition means quite a bit. Many times in life...no matter how hard you try you never seem to get the recognition you deserve. I applaud the local news outlet for taking the time to recognize not only my son but all the lacrosse players recognized as all-stars.
My father commented that “it’s about time” when attending Jake’s recent graduation…he thought that graduating in mid June was too late…wait till he finds out that the lacrosse season and school year have been over for almost a month before this recognition hit the papers!
Enjoy the weather wherever the breeze takes you today!
Brian
Web link: http://www.fredericksburg.com/News/FLS/2010/062010/06282010/555591
Saturday, June 26, 2010
24 Hours and then some….
Well I went on a diatribe last night about NOT being able to get a Dunkin Donut at midnight…suffice to say I have NOT recovered…there is much happening in DC and yes...people are talking about the new show...Housewives of DC...but I could care less...its well after midnight and I still can't get a good donut...I have not reached the point where I am considering moving BUT I am still taken back at everything else that is open 24 hours in this area EXCEPT the donut shop;
Toys-R-Us is open 24 hours – the kids all use to go late at night…why??? I have no idea BUT my point is that they are open 24 hours…who finds the need to shop for toys at 2AM?
Most of the gas stations in Northern Virginia are open 24 hours…I get that one!
Taco Bell, McDonalds and Wendy’s are all open 24 hours…however the thought of eating a Double Quarter Pounder with cheese just kills me at 3AM
I remember Black Friday 2009 when the kids wanted to go to Toys-R-Us at midnight…of course we were skeptical…however they went…free gifts will entice young people to do stupid things that educated (albeit tired) adults would never do…like walking to Toys-R-Us at midnight. When they came back…still…no donuts!
But I digress…right now Diners, Drive-ins and Dives is on the Food Network…a great show but again…no donuts!
I will be up early…thanks in part to the modern medications I am taking…I plan on asking the GM at each Dunkin Donuts about going 24/7…I feel I may run into problems as the Dunkin Donuts over by the mall is run by the Chinese who have NEVER gotten my order right and BARELY speak English…however they do smile a lot…and the folks at Rte 1 Dunkin Donuts are from Pakistan and they…well…they don’t speak English AT ALL.
When the time is right I will send the kids back to Toys-R-Us…it will be good practice for all of them running the night shift at my own Dunkin Donuts! I think it is the only way to rectify this situation!
Enjoy...and Good Night!
Brian
Friday, June 25, 2010
What I Wouldn’t Give…For a Donut!
Its past midnight and I have a hankering for a donut…and not just any donut…it has to be a Dunkin Donut!
The problem in this area is that you can’t go out at midnight and get a donut…Dunkin Donuts is not open 24 hours!
What to do?
Say no to Krispy Kreme! Way too sweet…just not a good taste…especially at midnight!
No to Denny’s! They don’t do donuts and to be honest…I just hate that place after finding hair on the plate during my last trip to the one in Alexandria
No to IHOP! Again…they don’t do donuts!
I would really just like a donut!
As of a couple of months ago we use to head out and get the kids donuts on the weekend…it was amazing to watch them all devour 12 donuts within minutes of walking in. I left the kitchen on one such weekend…I was gone for less then 2 minutes and when I returned…they were all gone…including my selections. The kids all looked and said...”you snooze; you loose”
I grew up on donuts…they were a mainstay in the morning…Mister Donuts still resonates so clearly with me…but it does not help me tonight! Somewhere in the world there is a 24 hour Dunkin Donuts calling my name…but alas…not here in Northern Virginia.
Perhaps I should just open one!
Good Night!
Thursday, June 24, 2010
What happens at the Pool...stays in the Pool
What a Day….!
So as many of you know Thursday is usually the day I head in and get my vitals taken and talk with the Doctor about various issues and complications associated with my condition. I was able to meet with a great friend this AM and talk about some of the poetry I have written as well as talk about the future…I called and asked the Doctor to reschedule based on this meeting she agreed…so we are on for Friday morning.
Now it’s approaching 100 degrees here in DC and suffice to say…it’s a hot day. I figured I would go to the pool…makes sense right…but for the last two days some little kid decided that the pool is the perfect place to PUKE…yes I said puke! Come to find out this is the second day in a row...same kid…same pool!
Now I don’t blame the kid…far from it…his Mom though…she needs to know that at 100 plus degrees little Johnnie is NOT going to last long eating Twinkies and Pizza without “tossing his lunch” into the pool all the while sitting in the sun. Which leads me to the second part of the story...
Now you might think this is bad but one of America’s finest 16 year old lifeguard who was sitting at the desk telling me this story goes on to state ...”but you can still go sit in the sun” - I maintained my composure and thought to myself….yes I came to the pool to sit in the sun on a hot summers day…you idiot…what a window licker!
I should have called the kids and come by with the “Sock-em Boppers” and teach this would be “rocket scientist” a lesson...but I did not!
I digress…
All is not lost…I just finished watching a great show on NHL Television…it was called “A Ref’s Life” and it follows both AHL and NHL officials across the country as they prepare for and ultimately officiate crucial games in these hockey leagues. Fantastic cinematography coupled with some of the greatest officials who have ever laced up the skate makes for a great show.
Enjoy the day…can’t wait to see what the kid does over the weekend at the pool….use your imagination!
Brian
Wednesday, June 23, 2010
Washington DC...the Potomac...and a Great General's Demise
What an interesting day in Washington DC. A great General in American history has been seconded to the sidelines and forced to step aside…and another…more politically correct one has been called in to take his place.
I had the pleasure and distinction of serving for then Colonel McChrystal at Ft Bragg, North Carolina back in the mid 1990's. Besides being a considerate and compassionate soldier he was also a statesman and scholar…one of the finest and most brilliant officers our Nation (and West Point) has ever produced. His operational forte and his mannerisms were the stuff of legend…and many an officer can say that they learned directly from his actions. His second in command (a Brigadier General from Ft Bragg) was at the finish line last year when I completed the Army Ten Miler...we talked for a few minutes and he stated that working for "the Man" was the most rewarding assignment he ever had.
My cousin chatted with me online today…the question was what do I think about the McChrystal issue…I responded then as I do now…with a simple statement…”General McChrystal does not do ANYTHING without fully understanding the implications of his actions.”
Some will ponder why he said the things he said and why he allowed the men serving under him to mock the civilian chain of command back in Washington…again…General McChrystal does not do anything without fully understanding the implication of his actions…or his words.
Now while all this is going on I had the great pleasure of watching the movie Munich over the past 48 hours. It is a breathtaking piece that shows the primal aspect that resonates in all of us when we feel we are done wrong…revenge.
For those of you who have never watched this cinematic effort, it is about a group of Israeli assassins who scour the world killing those responsible for planning the 1972 Olympic Games massacre. More importantly…and based on what has transpired with General McChrystal…the movie graphically demonstrates that the Israeli Mossad and the beloved Golda Maier did not place politics above doing what was right. It’s a lesson that this and other Administrations will need to learn in going forward in the War on Terror!
The film transcends the current Israeli-Palestinian feud and focuses on the kidnapping of 11 Israeli athletes at the hands of several Palestinian gunmen at the 1972 Munich Olympic Games. All 11 athletes and most of their captors were killed in a botched rescue attempt by the German GSG-9 Counter-terrorism Force.
This movie is not as much about reenacting the tragic events, but instead focuses on the Israeli government's secret decision to bring a group of five men together to travel around Europe and assassinate the men responsible for planning the attack. The men proceed with the killings, working off a list of names without any knowledge as to how involved each man was with the Munich massacre. As time goes on, they begin to question their killings - after all, what is the difference between assassination and murder? Was the evidence conclusive that these men were involved? Does the killing of eleven men really do anything for the Israeli state?
The cast assembled for this movie is first rate. Eric Bana, best known as a loner in Blackhawk Down leads other renowned actors including Daniel Craig (James Bond) and Geoffrey Rush. Bana is fantastic and he successfully pulls off a character who is wrestling with the construct of revenge. He believes what he is doing has to be done, but at the same time he is killing men he doesn't know out of revenge for his country.
The movie is powerful and moving…and very long! For those from the intelligence community you can relate between the powerful covert action and suspense to long sequences of contemplation and discussion. While the "good guys" are Israelis, the movie's intention is to show that this constant fighting and killing will lead no where except to more fighting and killing...and that is the problem with revenge…it really never leads anywhere. The movie never takes away from the outright tragedy that was Munich, but at the same time it does not defend Israel in its supposed right to kill off anyone who knew anything about the attack or posed a threat to the state.
I am sure the internet as well as the country will be abuzz over the next several days based on what has happened in DC today…suffice to say…I will wait on the book…if the comments captured in the Rolling Stone article are any indication look for a title such as …”Afghanistan…and the Weenies in the White House” … in the interim buy or rent Munich... it’s well worth viewing.
Brian
Monday, June 21, 2010
The Past...and Moving On
"You will never know true happiness until you have truly loved, and you will never understand what pain really is until you have lost it."
I had a wonderful discussion with a friend tonight on the topic of life and love...of loving not only another... but also taking care of oneself. This friend was able to put into context what has happened in my life and how my actions have impacted - both in a positive and negative light - many people.
I look back and I can’t begin to tell you the number of dysfunctional relationships that I have had myself involved in and refused to let go of ... but there comes a point when you realize that it is a cycle…and this is what my friend was stating…that it is a cycle that needs to be broken. There comes a time when you have had enough of living in such instability...and more importantly...insanity.
I realized a long time ago that only I can correct such situations and prevent myself from experiencing them over and over…I took a stand and said NO MORE. Of course it was HARD…I felt like crap for quite some time, but, it was worth it. Eventually the sickness in my stomach went away; the nervous butterflies vanished, and suddenly I had found myself again, only much wiser and quite a bit stronger.
I remember early on in my doctorate studies I was dealing with a lot of couples…and each of them stated the same thing…relationships are not easy friends…it's not like you are going to meet someone and it's just going to fall in place. They take commitment, trust, communication, stability, consistency, and honesty. Simply saying I love you does not cut it…it’s the actions that follow those words prove them to be true…and I know that!
Thank you my friend…it meant more coming from you then you will ever know.
Goodnight!
Brian
I Sit and Wonder
I often sit and wonder
In life just where I’d be
To touch her face just one more time
In love…so much I see
She is an eternal blessing
Her heart shone ever true
I lay awake and think at night
My love…she never knew
My life has changed so much
That time beats ever still
In months…oh so it seems
I climb that rocky hill
I search the darkness for the light
In a world that knows only pain
But when I find my one true love
Lest my search be not…in vain
I often sit and wonder
In life just where I’d be
Without her love to follow
Lost…is what I see
I’ll love her till the end
Of time…they say it’s true
My love for her is certain
In all…I say and do
Sunday, June 20, 2010
You Can’t Pay for This Entertainment….!
The graduation ceremony for my eldest was an incredible event and well done by the Colonial Forge Staff…top notch. We were able to secure seats in the shade and had a very good morning…when Jake went back in I received a phone call from him…and he needed to see me quickly…I ran to the entrance where we met up…”Dad I need 40 dollars or they wont let me graduate…I lost a text book” - 40 bucks later...Jake is officialy DONE with High School!
After securing the diploma we went back to the house…the kids had a party and with my Dad, my brother Kevin and his son Logan in tow... we enjoyed the HOT summer day. Very good food and good company…thanks to Tim for some amazing barbecue and catfish…some of the best I have ever had.
We were on our way out when the call came in…”man down…man down” – I ran out to the jousting pit to see Ian writhing in pain…his head was being held by an EMT who was at the party...phones were out and 911 was notified...8 minutes later the ambulance and firetruck arrived…a trip to Stafford Hospital…X-Ray’s and several specialists…an MRI revealed no major damage…he has suffered a severe case of whiplash and is on some heavy duty medication…groggy is an understatement! Three hours later...back home and moving slowly...he was trying to get comfortable.
We thought Jake would be the first to break in the new Stafford County Hospital…but Ian won that lottery. He will be fine…it will take time and he will be sore…but he can look back and learn from the experience.
The boys are on vacation…looking forward to a summer free of this kind of entertainment…we shall see!
Have a great week!
Brian
After securing the diploma we went back to the house…the kids had a party and with my Dad, my brother Kevin and his son Logan in tow... we enjoyed the HOT summer day. Very good food and good company…thanks to Tim for some amazing barbecue and catfish…some of the best I have ever had.
We were on our way out when the call came in…”man down…man down” – I ran out to the jousting pit to see Ian writhing in pain…his head was being held by an EMT who was at the party...phones were out and 911 was notified...8 minutes later the ambulance and firetruck arrived…a trip to Stafford Hospital…X-Ray’s and several specialists…an MRI revealed no major damage…he has suffered a severe case of whiplash and is on some heavy duty medication…groggy is an understatement! Three hours later...back home and moving slowly...he was trying to get comfortable.
We thought Jake would be the first to break in the new Stafford County Hospital…but Ian won that lottery. He will be fine…it will take time and he will be sore…but he can look back and learn from the experience.
The boys are on vacation…looking forward to a summer free of this kind of entertainment…we shall see!
Have a great week!
Brian
Friday, June 18, 2010
A Note to My Eldest Son Jake…on the eve of your High School Graduation…
"There are no secrets to success. It is a matter of preparation, hard work and learning from failure"
General Colin L. Powell
As I sat here this past evening I started looking back over the past 18 years that led up to this moment…so many memories…memories that I treasure…hopefully these bring back some smiles for you as you sit read this…
You wont remember these…but I do…I remember the hour you were born; your first steps; the countless military moves; California and Bakers Square in the convertible; roller hockey; skiing and winter sports; snowed in at Lake Tahoe; tractor towing in the snow at Fort Bragg; Cub Scouts; rocket launches at work; swimming in the unit pool on post; haircuts on Saturday mornings; fireworks; the dogs; Luther the rabbit; the 3 wheeler; the 4 wheelers; the beach trips; new bikes in West Virginia; skateboarding out by the pool; learning to drive the cars as a 10 year old; Holy Cross; watching Monster Garage on Monday nights; Rusty, Renegade, Ranger and Sherman; Snowboarding; Ian’s Superman at Gunstock…these are all moments that made me proud and happy to your Dad.
Others inluded your academics; the first time I saw you play lacrosse; coaching you in soccer and hockey…going undefeated in the season at the Ice Park; your last High School Lacrosse Game…..the All Star Game…your Eagle Scout Ceremony…traveling to Ferrum College…moments that I will never forget…and that I will forever hold close to me.
Something that was given to me by my grandparents the day I graduated and hopefully you will pass this on…I think you will understand its meaning and its significance…as you know that your Great-grandfather was a fisherman and this story was very close to him and Nana…and to me
Many years ago, fishermen from the town of Boston would pray, "Keep me, oh God for my boat is so small, and the ocean is so wide" before launching their boats into the Atlantic. Their prayer reflected two things that they had experienced in their lives as fishermen…that each day was filled with uncertainties and that they were dependent upon God to bless their labors.
As you are graduating from Colonial Forge there is a parallel (ask Dakota what that means!) that can be made between you my son and these fishermen…you stand on the shore ready to launch your boat into the ocean of life. And like the fishermen of Boston you face an uncertain future.
You do not know what you will confront each day, nor the dangers and temptations that lurk in your paths. You do not know whether you will achieve success or experience failure…but I can tell you that you will experience both. You do not know what disappointments you will be called upon to bear…but above all there is endless opportunity that now lies before you!
As you walk across the stage and take it all in you will soon ask…”what will happen now?
As your Dad I know you are filled with excitement and optimism, looking forward to the future…a future full of anticipation…expecting to achieve success and to live a happy life. This was most likely the same case with the fishermen that my grandparents told me about. These men learned from experience that life is filled with uncertainty and difficulties…and that to be successful you have to be able to persevere (again…ask Dakota!)
Now my son you will also face some disappointments and you will be given some great opportunities that will lead to great experiences…and you will be required to continually learn from these experiences…and I know you are smart enough to know this…and smart enough to understand.
I love you Jake…and I have never been more proud of you then I am right now…you have so much to give…and I know you will make great contributions in a world that will need it!
Well done my Son!
Wednesday, June 16, 2010
PTSD...and Poetry...the Nexus.......
Its 16 June 2010 here in Washington DC and I am finishing some re-writes today as well as some dissertation work. The reality of this is it looks like another couple of weeks of writing before I can re-submit the abstract to my dissertation. That said there is a lot of good research currently being executed by the armed services in regards to PTSD studies.
There was an interesting article in the Psychology Today Blog back in December, 2009. The article(s) exemplified the manner in which many in the military looked at PTSD…”be a man and get through it” … in the end that is NOT the approach to deal specifically with PTSD…quite the opposite. I will attach the link so that you can read through the article and link to the Boston globe article as well.
(Link: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-hope-preventing-suicide/200912/be-man-and-get-through-it)
The below listed piece of poem is for a second work that I am currently penning…the difference from my first work and this new initiative is that these poems are set in contemporary America and are not rooted in service to country but in thought of day to day life...in essence the thoughts of the day and what a man thinks of as the hours tick by. More to follow!
Enjoy the day!
Brian
What it meant to Love you…
Your gentle touch and warm embrace
Carried me on high
You kept my heart within your soul
I knew…I wouldn’t die
And when I wake to feel your breath
Upon my face…so near
I’ll pull you close and ask the Lord
Let our life be free of fear
Of living without each other
In a world…so full of pain
You given me a purpose
And for that…I shall remain
Always true to your heart
Forever…I promise thee
To hold your hand…and keep you close
For this…I do decree
That when I said that I loved you
I meant that…and so much more
You are the life given to me
For then…just as before
You will be my sunshine
My life…and all that’s true
Whatever the amount of time I have
I give it all…to you
Monday, June 14, 2010
PART II ..... War Crimes...and my personal history
This is Part II of a Blog that I initiated earlier last week - several had commented and wanted to hear more about this sad and tragic period in history. Make sure you watch the movie via the link at the end of this posting It was originally published on The WITNESS Blog and can bee seen at the following link:
http://blog.witness.org/2010/06/srebrenica-a-forensic-reconstruction-now-on-exhibit-at-open-society-archive/
In July 1995, over 8,000 Muslim men and boys were systematically slaughtered on grounds of ethnicity in and around Srebrenica in roughly 72 hours by units of the Bosnian Serb Army. Since then, more than 6,000 victims exhumed from eighty mass graves have been identified. In a lingering atmosphere of denial, which allows for the chief executioner of the genocide, General Ratko Mladić, to remain still at large, the Open Society Archive decided to give an answer to the “who did what to whom” question, without which it is impossible to come to terms with a human failure of such magnitude. The exhibit, Srebrenica-Exhumation, opened June 2 at the OSA Archivum in Budapest.
The true scale and the predetermined and careful organization of the genocide are best revealed in the documents which have been produced as the result of the meticulous investigative work of police officers, homicide detectives, and federal agents employed by the Office of the Prosecutor of International Criminal Tribunal for the former Yugoslavia. The map of war crimes created with the help of these “exhibits” provides compelling evidence as to the identity of the perpetrators and serves as a basis for their indictment and judgment. For example, part of the documents exhibited, including military orders, transcripts of intercepted radio communication, and fuel logs seized from various units of the Bosnian Serb Army, were used in the trial of General Radislav Krstic, the Commander of the Drina Corps, who was the first perpetrator in a Srebrenica-related ICTY case to be sentenced (to 35 years in prison) for aiding and abetting genocide. A precise yet somewhat detached analysis of documents and data, however, reveals that it is as important for the victims, who were given only codes and numbers in the various exhumation records, to regain their identities and have a proper burial and final rest.
Consequently, OSA’s reconstruction (see video) builds primarily on forensic reports, autopsies, military maps, site sketches and photos, aerial images from spy satellites, reflections of the investigators and forensic experts, testimonies by survivors and excerpts from films, which are presented partly in traditional forms and partly in computer installations in a reconstructed model of a mass grave, created with the tools of land art. The procedure is somewhat similar to that of a courtroom’s, where, as one observer noted, “The case is fleshed out with [documents], photographs taken from many angles and video evidence whose contemporaneous commentary is clinical and relentless.”
Additional archival sources offering an insight into the prehistory and afterlife of Srebrenica are also available: documents, books and audiovisual material from OSA’s extensive relevant collections are displayed for consultation in a research room attached to the main installation. Thus visitors, who wish to continue the exhumation by doing their own archival research, will become part of the exhibition themselves. A series of carefully selected documentary films on Srebrenica are being screened in conjunction with the exhibition.
And this evidence continues to support the ongoing struggle towards justice: just this month two of Mladić’s high-ranking officers were convicted by the ICTY of genocide, extermination, murder and persecution, for their role in the Srebrenica massacre.
The video can be found at the following address: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Id4wtBJHMdU
http://blog.witness.org/2010/06/srebrenica-a-forensic-reconstruction-now-on-exhibit-at-open-society-archive/
Thanks
Brian
In July 1995, over 8,000 Muslim men and boys were systematically slaughtered on grounds of ethnicity in and around Srebrenica in roughly 72 hours by units of the Bosnian Serb Army. Since then, more than 6,000 victims exhumed from eighty mass graves have been identified. In a lingering atmosphere of denial, which allows for the chief executioner of the genocide, General Ratko Mladić, to remain still at large, the Open Society Archive decided to give an answer to the “who did what to whom” question, without which it is impossible to come to terms with a human failure of such magnitude. The exhibit, Srebrenica-Exhumation, opened June 2 at the OSA Archivum in Budapest.
The true scale and the predetermined and careful organization of the genocide are best revealed in the documents which have been produced as the result of the meticulous investigative work of police officers, homicide detectives, and federal agents employed by the Office of the Prosecutor of International Criminal Tribunal for the former Yugoslavia. The map of war crimes created with the help of these “exhibits” provides compelling evidence as to the identity of the perpetrators and serves as a basis for their indictment and judgment. For example, part of the documents exhibited, including military orders, transcripts of intercepted radio communication, and fuel logs seized from various units of the Bosnian Serb Army, were used in the trial of General Radislav Krstic, the Commander of the Drina Corps, who was the first perpetrator in a Srebrenica-related ICTY case to be sentenced (to 35 years in prison) for aiding and abetting genocide. A precise yet somewhat detached analysis of documents and data, however, reveals that it is as important for the victims, who were given only codes and numbers in the various exhumation records, to regain their identities and have a proper burial and final rest.
Consequently, OSA’s reconstruction (see video) builds primarily on forensic reports, autopsies, military maps, site sketches and photos, aerial images from spy satellites, reflections of the investigators and forensic experts, testimonies by survivors and excerpts from films, which are presented partly in traditional forms and partly in computer installations in a reconstructed model of a mass grave, created with the tools of land art. The procedure is somewhat similar to that of a courtroom’s, where, as one observer noted, “The case is fleshed out with [documents], photographs taken from many angles and video evidence whose contemporaneous commentary is clinical and relentless.”
Additional archival sources offering an insight into the prehistory and afterlife of Srebrenica are also available: documents, books and audiovisual material from OSA’s extensive relevant collections are displayed for consultation in a research room attached to the main installation. Thus visitors, who wish to continue the exhumation by doing their own archival research, will become part of the exhibition themselves. A series of carefully selected documentary films on Srebrenica are being screened in conjunction with the exhibition.
And this evidence continues to support the ongoing struggle towards justice: just this month two of Mladić’s high-ranking officers were convicted by the ICTY of genocide, extermination, murder and persecution, for their role in the Srebrenica massacre.
The video can be found at the following address: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Id4wtBJHMdU
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