Tuesday, May 29, 2012

Eighteen Years Ago Today...and I Remember!




I remember so much about the last 18 years my son...the day you were born and how were watching the Indy 500 "waiting" on you! I remember the snow storms where you came out in shorts and told me "I have shoes on Dad" even though they were only slippers!

I think about how smart you were in hiding baby bottles as Mom tried to take them away from you...and how I would sneak into your room...and you would wake from a nap or a deep sleep and place your arms around me and I would "lift you" to freeedom! I remember when you began skiing and took off down the mountain without care or regard...and I had to chase you only to be admonished by the ski patrol...and I rember the cat licking the cheese at the B&B and you laughing...right after I ate it!

I remember your first goal in hockey Ian Hayes...and how you were part of our championship team...how you skated so strong and always wanted to play on your brother's team...even though they were 3 years older than you. I remember your first day with braces...and the day you called me and said..."they are finally off!"

I remember how proud I was when you told me you completed your Eagle Project knowing how much effort you put into it...and I remember your hand...holding mine...when Nana passed away and how you comforted me when she left us.

Then there were the comments when I came back from Iraq...like "we don't go to a barber Dad...we go to a stylist" and so many more! I remember holding your hand at the mall; the first time you drove a stick shift and the many times we would ski together!

I look back today...and I remember it all Ian Patrick Hayes...all of it! Eighteen years is a long time and you still have so much to do and so many things to accomplish. Where others will not...I know you will!

You have made me proud over these past 18 years...enjoy this day and all that it brings you for you are my son...and I thank God everyday for that!

Love
Dad

Wednesday, May 23, 2012

When a General Officer Speaks...


Like many of you I grew up watching war films depicting the heroics that were WWII and the men and women who fought in that conflict. Front and center were the soldiers doing the impossible against all odds. Factor in some major performances by leading actors portraying famous General Officers of the period and you have the making of some incredible films.  Many of these classics will be re-run this weekend as we prepare to celebrate Memorial Day.

Fast forward nearly 50 years and the services continue to do a great job of selecting senior officers for “Flag” – a term used to denote those that have attained the rank of General (or Admiral for our Naval brethren) These officers in many cases represent the best of the best and usually have served their country for 22-25 years before attaining this rank.

There are only 11 four star generals on active duty in the U.S. Army. Fewer than one-half percent of commissioned officers make it to the top three ranks of Army general. Congress and the Department of Defense limit the total number of general officers to 302 general officers (generals, lieutenant generals, major generals and brigadier generals) in the U.S. Army.

If you have served in the armed forces or worked in close quarters with military retirees then no doubt you have run across a few General Officers in your day. Most are dynamic and well versed with a penchant for making things happen and a bit of a swagger in their step. I can list many from the Special Operations Community (past and present) as well as the Navy and the Marine Corp who I have been privileged to work with and serve under during peace and war. Great men born from a great country….

Which leads me to today’s posting about suicide and the words of a General Officer…

I will not try to imagine the frustration that comes from loosing men who have taken their own lives upon returning home from the battle but the Commanding Officer at Ft Bliss (in Texas) Major General Dana Pittard’s blunt and outrageous comments about suicide has raised eyebrows throughout the military and the US Department of Defense.  Suffice to say that many in the armed forces are upset and dismayed that a current “2 Star General” would call these warriors “selfish” in addressing the rising rate of suicides within the US Army.

I have attached a link so that you can read the article. In the end as a budding mental health practitioner focused on PTSD I can only hope that this General Officer realizes that the soldiers who serve under him at Ft. Bliss and around the globe look to his words and actions for encouragement and direction. When a General Officer fails his/her soldiers then it is time to go.

As soon as this hits the nightly news in the next day or so and with the advent of the Memorial Day weekend upon us…there will be 301 general officers on active duty in the United States Army quite quickly.  You can read the article at the following link:

http://www.nationaljournal.com/nationalsecurity/general-s-blog-entry-reignites-army-suicide-debate-20120522?mrefid=site_search

Warmest Regards and Happy Memorial Day!